Soul & Soil

June 1, 2025

Self-Abandonment & Codependency: Why You Keep Losing Yourself in Relationships

There's a quiet kind of pain that comes from constantly showing up for others while leaving yourself behind. You might smile, stay agreeable, keep the peace--while deep down, something feels off. Over time, this pattern of self-abandonment can feel like you've gone missing inside your own life.

Often rooted in early experiences, codependency shows up as people-pleasing, over-functioning, difficulty experiencing our own emotions, taking ownership of other's thoughts, feelings, and opinions, difficulty knowing our own reality, self-esteem issues, and often over-functioning and performance-driven behavior.

Through trauma-informed therapy, we gently untangle these patterns with compassion and curiosity. Together, we make space for your voice, your needs, your story. We work toward healing the part of you that learned love had to be earned or that conflict meant danger.

Healing from self-abandonment isn't about becoming someone new. It's about remembering who you were before the world taught you to shrink. It's about listening to the whisper beneath the noise---the part of you that knows what you need, what you feel, and what you long for. When you begin to honor that voice, even in small ways, you begin to come home to yourself. And from that place, real connection--with others, with God, and with your purpose--can finally take root and flourish.

If you're in the Shreveport area (71101) or elsewhere in Louisiana and longing to reconnect with yourself, therapy can offer a way back. Not to a perfect version of you--but to a more honest, grounded, and whole one.

Dr. Molly

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